Sunday, August 22, 2021

My Top Ten Ways to Manage Stress and Anger

A Personal Review of Ten Ways to Manage Stress and Anger

Unfortunately, nobody gets to live a stress-free life.

Personally speaking, life has handed me buckets of stress. Keeping myself centered has been an active, neverending exercise.

My Top Ten Ways to Manage Stress & Anger

1. Deep Breathing - One of My Personal Faves

What's great about this technique is, you can do it anywhere. If you're out-and-about and are dealing with a difficult situation or even have a stressful thought, start taking those slow deep breaths. I like to do this to the count of six; count slowly to six as you breathe in and slowly to six as you breathe out.


2. Step Away From the Situation

If you're able to physically remove yourself from a stressful situation, then do it. Take a short walk or remove yourself from the space where the problem or stress persists. If you have to be around the person, or problem, revert to quiet deep breathing exercises. Just focus on your breath so that you're not consumed with negative thoughts. Ultimately walking away, and deep breathing provides you with a distraction. 

The "twenty-four hour rule" is a calming method used in sports with parents. Give it twenty-four hours before you complain to the coach about a matter pertaining to your child. Time offers perspective. It's a terrific technique for all aspects of life.


3. Body Movement - One of My Personal Faves

For me, this one works best most of the time. I need to burn off my stress, which normally involves a bike ride or pedaling like a maniac on the Cubii, conveniently located under my desk. By the way, if you haven't heard of the Cubii, I highly recommend it.


4. Distraction

This one works well for a friend of mine. She's able to perform a task, read, or watch a movie to get her mind off a stressful situation. For me, this doesn't work. However, if you're able to free your mind of a problem using a movie or book as a distraction, go for it!


5. Pray for Other People - One of My Personal Faves

I use this one most of the time. Even though I'm in a stressful situation, I pray for others, and I pray continuously. I go through each person individually, asking for specific things about their life and their needs. By taking the focus off of myself, I find peace and a bit more understanding. 


6. Listen to Music or Motivational Videos or Audio Books

Play positive music or messages. Use headphones to block out the rest of the world. The negativity surrounding us can be overwhelming, never mind adding a stressful moment or event to the mix! Battle that with positive words. Fight the dark energy with light energy.


7. Take Stock of Your Own Mistakes and Faults

I do practice this one. When I'm upset with another person, I actively remember my own mistakes throughout life, and remind myself of my flaws. I try very hard not to give myself anger-freebies and actively reflect upon the mistakes I've made throughout life. When I think about my faults, I have kinder thoughts about the person I'm upset with.


8. Put the Problem in Perspective

Most of us tend to blow up an issue into tangents when pissed off with another person. We start thinking about every other little thing the person did as well as the immediate issue. I think women tend to do this more? When I'm upset about one particular issue, after fuming for a bit, I remember to focus on the issue that needs tending; not a lifetime of issues. Even if other matters have been brushed under the table for a future date to solve, I try to remember to focus on the issue at hand. Not easy.


9. It's O.K. To Be Mad for a While

Allow yourself the time you need to get past the anger stage. You have a right to go through this step! When I'm stressed or upset, especially if it involves another person, I let myself feel those emotions so that I can get past them. When I'm ready, I practice many of the tips I featured above; deep breathing, prayer, music, and so on.


10. When Possible Seek a Solution

Not all problems have a solution, but some do. When you've regrouped and you're past the anger stage, begin the solution process. Unfortunately, only you know what that is. I use this one measure as a guide; if the solution is mutual it's potentially a good start.

Bonus Tip Number 11If you are wrong, apologize. 

Disclaimer: I'm not a doctor. This isn't professional medical advice. Like most moms, I'm just a mother and grandmother with life experience, sharing my personal tips and discoveries. 




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10 comments:

  1. All ten of your stress management steps have merit, Barbara. Appreciate having a list of things to do and consider when dealing with stress.

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  2. Barbara, I am bookmarking this excellent list and will try to remember to refer to it the next time I am experiencing these feelings. Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom! 💗

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  3. Most excellent suggestions for managing stress Barbara! I probably say "stress is a killer" at least once a day. I know so many people who just stay on the high level of stress and I worry that it will cause them health issues before long. roflol! I guess that means I stress over the stressers that I love. For me, prayer is essential. I've found if I will just stop and pray for the person, the situation, I will receive the needed relief. I know I just turned that issue and person over to the only One who can really change things and people. Funny that you mentioned breathing and counting. I do the same thing! I know we are fellow lions, but it still always makes me laugh to know we think so much alike :) Why do I find counting so relaxing?!!! Btw, I do use movies and books as a distraction for reality, which is why I don't care for a lot of realistic shows. They are my escape!

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  4. Barbara, you have given us all a great way to navigate life with all it's ups and downs. Mental health and coping skills are sometimes what is needed more than anything else. Your top 10 are great steps to take towards a better understanding and decreasing the energy spent in frustration! Thank you for this!

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  5. These are excellent ideas for helping with stress and anger. Long term or frequent stress can be very damaging to our health in many ways so we do need to find what works to help. As you say it is very difficult to live a life totally free from stress, but we can aim to help ourselves cope or manage it better. All your suggestions have merit and we will all be different in what works best for us under stress. I love the breathing techniques and they are very useful anywhere. I too need to move if I am stressed and usually that is getting out into nature or just stepping out into the garden and connecting with a natural environment. Thank you for a wonderful review.

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    1. Thanks very much. Deep breathing is the easiest on-the-go solution, I absolutely agree.

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