Friday, December 18, 2015

I Miss You Most at Christmas Time - Music Review & Personal Narrative

I Miss You!

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It is the week before Christmas and I am already surrounded by my family, but there is someone missing.

9 years ago my brother died.  During the holidays, when he should be here with us, the grief washes over me and I, once again, mourn the death of my beloved brother.

The holidays should be joyous and for the most part they really are festive.  There is a lot of family togetherness and laughter. Ironically, it is when we are all laughing that I hear the voice in my mind of one that is no longer laughing with us.  If ever there was anyone who loved to laugh, loved life, loved family, and loved Christmas, it would be my brother.

I wonder if there will ever be a Christmas that I don't remember and grieve his absence.

The photo above is from my own personal photo album.  It was taken on Christmas day, several years ago and is an actual photo of my brother and grandmother together.


I Miss You Most at Christmas Time by Mariah Carey

Several years ago, at Christmas, I heard "Miss You Most (At Christmas Time)" by Mariah Carey.My tenderhearted brother was with me then and we joined together as we cried and grieved the death and separation from our grandmother.

It never occurred to me that his would be the next family death and that when I heard the song again, it would be him that I would be missing.



Separation is for Just for a Season

St Peter's Basilica Dove Stained Glass Window Photo
St Peter's Basilica Dove Stained Glass Window
After my tears are spent, I recall the promise made by our Savior, Jesus Christ, thousands of years ago and I regain the strength to step into the next moment of my life.

John 6:38-40

"For I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but the will of Him who sent me. And this is the will of Him who sent me, that of all that He has given me, I lose nothing, but raise it up on the last day. For this is the will of my Father, that everyone who beholds the Son and believes in him shall have eternal life, and I Myself will raise him up on the last day."


Comfort

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My Brother's Monument
I find great comfort in that scripture passage and in His promise.  I am not wishing my life away, for there is work yet for me to do, but I know that one day I will be reunited with my brother and all who have gone before me.



My Brother's Monument
My Brother's Monument

About the Dove in the Photo & the Monument


The photo of the dove is of a stained glass window in St. Peter's Basilica in Rome.  I shall never forget the first time I ever saw that window.  It was brilliant!  I loved that window and took lots of photos before we left.  I can't adequately describe the magnificence and awe of seeing that window in person or the sense of longing and adoration it evokes.   The image of the sun lite stained glass dove stayed in my mind's eye long after we left Rome. 

When we were designing my brother's monument, that was the image that came to mind.  As you can see, the monument artist was able to replicate the image on the monument from the photo.

The inscription is a quote from the sonnet "Death, be Not Proud", written by John Donne.  I truly believe that it is death that dies when we wake eternally.   

I wrote this article about myself and my own personal thoughts, but I also recognize that there are many among us who are grieving during the holidays.  It is my sincere desire that these words may also comfort others who are grieving.

May the One who bottles your tears, comfort you now!

Scripture reference: Psalms 56:8
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8 comments:

  1. Cynthia, this is a lovely tribute to your brother and to all the missing members of our families this Christmas season. They shall be remembered today... and always... by those of us who loved them.

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  2. My sister and I are missing both of our brothers again this year, having lost both to cancer within the last few years, so I truly can say I understand your pain. I also share your blessed hope, that I'll see them both again in the future. This is a beautiful tribute, comfort, and such a wonderful reminder for those who believe. Your brother's monument is beautiful. So nice to have designed something so very personal. Merry Christmas, Cynthia. <3

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  3. My sister and I are missing both of our brothers again this year, having lost both to cancer within the last few years, so I truly can say I understand your pain. I also share your blessed hope, that I'll see them both again in the future. This is a beautiful tribute, comfort, and such a wonderful reminder for those who believe. Your brother's monument is beautiful. So nice to have designed something so very personal. Merry Christmas, Cynthia. <3

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  4. Beautifully written. Christmas time certainly is a time when we remember those who have gone before us. I know my Mother is constantly in my thoughts. Remembering that Jesus is the "Reason for the Season" gives us the reassurance that we will again meet up with our loved ones in Heaven.

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  5. Grief sometimes sneaks up on us when we're not looking, but Christmas isn't like that is it, it's a time of celebration and remembrance and we're in that mode for an extended period of time. It's just hard when someone should be sitting at the table or a phone call away and they're not. Your tribute to your brother is beautiful, and I'm sorry for such a huge loss. Like you, I adore my brothers, and cannot fathom my life without them. I talk to my brother everyday, so this pain you're feeling hits me. With dad gone, my brothers make it easier to handle, so I'm really feeling for those who have lost a close sibling, or anyone close of course. The headstone you had done is beautiful, that's very special. Oh and yes, like you, I believe we live on, I have no doubt about that.

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  6. Your words resonate with me. We always miss those who have left us too soon, but so many memories of them are associated with holidays like Christmas. I'm glad I still have my brother and my two nephews, but my two children and my parents should also be around that holiday table. I'd better wipe the tears away and get back to work. Thank you for sharing something so personal. As you can see, others share your kind of grief and hope. It is that hope that keeps us going. May God's face shine upon you at your Christmas table.

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  7. I can so relate to all you have written. I too have lost my only brother at an age where we should be getting old together and laughing at all of life's foibles....Alas, such was not to be, I will have to wait for my eternity to join him in his and then we will laugh. Thank you for a beautifully written piece...

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  8. I hate being in this club as I have lost 2 of my sisters when they were way too young and I still miss them. Your article is beautiful though. Hope your Christmas is merry despite your loss.

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