Having a parent move in with you sounds like the ideal way for an elder
person to spend their remaining years.
I'm here to tell you that it is indeed one way to manage the care and physical
needs of someone who can no longer do these things for themselves.
Entering into a long term care facility was not an option in our case, and I'm
kind of glad that it isn't. But I'll be the first one to tell you that
it is not the easiest thing to do.
Aging is a process we will all go through if we are healthy. As the
years go by though, those aging processes become much more intense and
possibly detrimental to a good relationship that you may have had years
earlier.
I will tell you our story as it is unfolding. My mother will soon be 92
years old. When she first moved in with us, she was still fairly mobile
and able to do many things for herself. She just needed us to make sure
she was taking her meds and eating well balanced meals. Getting her to
doctor's appointments and such. We were happy to be able to help her do
all those things.
At almost 92 though, things seem to change a lot quicker in a very short
period of time.
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Mobility has become a major issue. She just isn't able to get up as
quickly as she did a few months ago.
Incontinence has become a major issue! She still is able to use the
facilities, but sometime she's not able to get to the facilities as quickly as
she should. So what happens next is the problem.
Just the other night she was sitting in her favorite chair watching
Jeopardy! So far so good, but then she thought she should get ready to
go to sleep. When she got up, I think she realized that she had had an
accident. There was a towel on the chair.
Not wanting to make her feel uncomfortable, I got the towel and realized
indeed it was very wet and the chair was as well.
So after treating the chair with this solution we decided to go one step
further in case there are any more accidents just waiting to happen.
A waterproof chair pad was ordered from good and trusty
Amazon. The chair pad has a cloth surface but is lined with a waterproof
plastic underneath. It has an anti-slip and waterproof backing to keep
the pad in place on the chair. If my mother has another accident, it
will just be a matter of removing the chair pad and replacing it with a clean
one. It's big enough and yet small enough that you can had launder it in
the kitchen or bathroom sink. Hang it out to dry and it'll be ready for
another use in no time at all. Or most of them can be laundered in the washing
machines as well. It is not bulky or odd looking on the chair so I'm
sure this will be a good solution to this new problem that we are
encountering. These come in a TWO Pack and in three different colors.
Choose the color that you like the best or that matches your furniture
the best!
I really like that the size is a good fit and that it doesn't move around
because of those little grippers on the backside. This was an easy fix.
We also have
incontinenece pads
for her to use on a daily basis and there are several different brands and
absorbency levels available. We are using the maximum absorbency for her
now and she really likes that they keep her dry and fresh even when little
leaks might occur.
Aging is not an easy process and our bodies need all the help they can
sometimes get. Thank goodness there are products available just for this
purpose.
Our hope is that we can continue to keep my mother here with us and with the
help of these products it should be fairly easy.
Now we have to work on the memory issues as they too are becoming more
frequent. But more on that at a later date.
For now this is me signing off and wishing every elder parent finds something
here to help them live their best lives everyday!
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Thankful that there are products available to help solve these problems of aging and allow people and their caretakers to live as comfortable a life as possible. Your mother is very lucky to have you, Olivia.
ReplyDeleteThank you Pat, these days can be trying in so many different ways.
DeleteOlivia, as someone who lived with and cared for both her elderly parents, I can definitely empathize with both the joy and the tremendous stress of this situation for both the parent and the caregivers. Finding aids like waterproof chair pads and incontinence pads is essential to the comfort and wellbeing of all concerned. Bless you and your mom!
ReplyDeleteUnless you have done this yourself, you really never know what you are really getting into until you are there. I know that you know exactly all of the pitfalls, but all of the joys too!
DeleteIt is good there are products to help us maintain dignity and respect as we age and our bodies need more help. I looked after both my parents and realised quickly that it is vital to maintain as much independence, comfort and privacy as possible. I wish you and your Mum all the best.
ReplyDeleteI really admire you and your husband for moving your mom in with you, Olivia. I know she gets better care from you then she would in any type of facility. As embarrassing as it is, incontinence is a problem many suffer with. Like you, I am glad there are products available to help. I like the looks of the chair pads you featured. I need to keep some on hand for when we have company. Sure would beat having to reupholster a fabric chair!
ReplyDeleteAmazon is a great place to find so many different items you need in the care of the elderly. We can get many of the items through our insurance plan, but when we can't I always go to Amazon. Thanks for a helpful lens.
ReplyDeleteReading this brings back memories of my mom's failing health - Still to this day I wished she could have come to our home, she was very very imobile and all the rest of it; she couldn't really get out of bed without two people helping her; and watching my strong, independent mother fade, was and still is one of the toughest things I've witnessed. I stop myself from feeling guilty now, but wow it is so hard - these waterproof chair pads are a great idea for sure. Mom needed those and many more items for her care. Thinking about it brings me to tears. I'm sending you love and light as you care for your mom during this very very challenging part of life.
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