The lyrics I wrote for this song are rather gut-wrenching and extremely personal, but I'm sure many who have gone through loss can unfortunately relate.
On February 6th, 2026, I put these words together for Echoes of a Quiet Room. I felt compelled to sit down and finally share the story of the day the world stopped for me. It happened twice—first in 2013 with my dad, and then in 2021 with my mom.
These words express some of the feelings I had in those moments, especially when my mother passed.
The Front Porch Never Felt So Empty
The lyrics to this song talk about our front porch never feeling so empty, the kitchen feeling empty, and my mom and dad's chairs being empty.
But the truth is, these feelings didn't just occur the moment they passed. While it was much more powerful when Mom died—mostly because Dad was already gone—these feelings actually hit me hardest while Mom was in nursing care.
I would drive the car up our long driveway and look at those empty front steps, remembering all the life that had once been there. I'd pull into the garage and walk up into the house all by myself, without my mother, my father, or my brothers. I was walking into that house alone.
There wasn't anything domestic being done anymore; the kitchen was just still. I would go into the family room and sit in her chair or Dad's chair, absolutely devastated by the realization that I was at a stage of life where they were no longer a part of the home, although they always will be in spirit, of course.
The hardest part when I think back was my parents not being there when I arrived. That was just one hundred percent brutal, and a bit weird all at the same time.
On the actual day my mom passed, I was with my brothers, so I wasn't alone. But the lyrics speak to those times she was in care, and I was at the house by myself, just existing in that space without them.
How We Get Through This Part of Life I'll Never Fully Understand, It's Brutal - That's The Only Way To Describe It
I've had a lot of trouble expressing the sheer loneliness I felt while Mom was in the hospital. Looking back, I feel a little bit proud of myself for managing such an intensely grief-stricken part of life.
I wonder how I even got through it. But the universal truth is that we don't know how strong we are until we have to be.
So many people out there are going through these exact same feelings, and that's why I wanted to write this song.
For anyone who has suffered this kind of loss, know you aren't alone. Having lived this myself, I wouldn't wish this pain on anyone, but I unfortunately share it with you. I guess that's just part of life.
Grief really does just sneak up on us sometimes.
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It is hard any time you lose someone, but especially hard when it is your parents. Because, now that part of your life has ended. I remember when my Uncle Wes died at age 91 as the last member of my parents' generation, making my brother and I now the oldest members of our immediate family. A sobering experience. Thanks for your rememberances, Barbara.
ReplyDeleteOh I understand the impact of being the next oldest after many family losses. I’m not quite there yet, but each year the family numbers change. Hugs to you Ms. Elf, thinking about you as you slow it down during life changes. Xxoo
DeleteBarbara dear, these lyrics and the story behind them really hit home for me. My parents were such vital people. My husband and I moved into their house to take care of them during their later years and watching them deteriorate and lose their essence right before our eyes was absolutely devastating. My mom passed just two years after we lost my dad and she had gone downhill fast after his death. I was never the same after losing them. And yet, I count my blessings that we were lucky enough to have parents so beloved that their loss was so painful. Thank you for expressing this experience so beautifully and accurately in your song poem, my friend.
ReplyDeleteMargaret, I was thinking about how similar your story was to mine regarding these terrible losses. I felt every single word you wrote in this comment. In fact it made me cry. We were lucky to have amazing parents, and to have cherished memories. But that sure doesn’t lesson the pain of their loss, as you well know. The last line I wrote in this lyric is absolutely my truth and yours, and many others, “we’ll never be the same” - truth is I don’t want to be anyway, we can’t be. Writing these lyrics and creating the video took 12 hours, as they usually do, and I had such a headache from crying all day doing it. Thank you for listening and sharing your story as well. Love you tons. Xxxooo
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